3rd Principle: Change Your Mindset
Life coaches, therapists, and self-awareness leaders use interchangeable language — paradigm, story, programming, racket. All of them describe the mindset and narrative beliefs. If you are not getting the results you want, change the input.
I am drawn to using the word story, probably because of my love for literature, theatre, and cinema. Storytelling predates all forms of group communication. Imagine a clan of migratory Homo sapiens around a campfire. One hunter stands, begins to move his arms. He utters sounds to describe how the gazelles scurried. A story — no words needed.
A key part of this principle is to look at what shows up in your life. That clearly is the result of your mindset.
Your mindset is your map. If you are using an old map, or an erroneous one, you'll stray from your path. To determine what map you are using, look to see what shows up in your life. Outcomes clearly demonstrate what mindset was being used.
Fixed Mindset: You need to be in control. You are determined to hold onto limiting beliefs. You easily defend, criticize, give up, or say "that's just how it is." You are envious of others' success.
Growth Mindset: You are open to curiosity, learning, and change. You know challenges are part of expanding. You view ups and downs as part of the process. You support others' successes and are inspired by them.
The good news is you can change your story. You'll have to choose to make a change.