What Kind Of Old Junk Are You Framing?
Framing
If you lived alone in the forest or a cave long enough, you would have little use for what others thought of you. Your appearance would not matter. Your status, net worth, kind of car you owned — all meaningless. So would the subjective reflections such as "am I worthy?" or "what do they think of me?" All of that would eventually fall away.
You are born with a clear mind, an empty box. It was void of self-created beliefs, stories, and patterns. As you grow up, you selectively filtered and categorized meaning based on the depth of emotional impact. You created meaning. Everything that followed was built upon the previous with variations and mutations.
As an adult, thoughts and actions are framed by the subconscious. Until we sort it out, we'll be ruled by other people's stories and fears instead of our own inner guidance.
Strengthen your neural wiring by consciously creating positive thoughts and experiences. Notice what the previous thought is before anxiety or fear arises — delve into that truth. Write down five gratitudes per day. Begin a daily meditation practice: 20 minutes, continuous or broken up. There is no "right way" to meditate — just sit quietly. Notice your breathing. Breathe deep from your abdomen instead of your chest.
One of the keys to happiness is understanding your subconscious framing and dismantling it. A good place to start: assume everything is an illusion. It is all made up out of thin air and meaning is subjective. Train your mind to expand rather than contract.