The Survivability Of Blame
The ugly truth about blame is we humans tend to view the world from the dualistic perspective of me here, you there. Perhaps a leftover from ancient survivability hard wiring, but it is time to shift gears. That separation thinking is cutting you off from the richness of life.
We hunker down in survival mode. Me here, you there. Our self-serving axiom states when things go awry, someone has to be named at fault — and it ain't gonna be me!
Blame is really just a disguised self-protective red herring. Underneath what you are really feeling is disappointment.
The first step in changing this reaction is to get to the root of "what is." The sky doesn't know you and what it does is completely out of your control. If it rains on your pool day, is the sky at fault? Of course not. You can choose to accept or resist — but your response and any ensuing choices are 100% within your control.
Eliminate 'me/you.' Notice 'what is.' Ask: is this in or out of your control? Identify true feelings. Identify needs not met. Make requests. Take action steps to meet needs.
Blaming is a finite dead end keeping you stuck in your own proverbial traffic. Pick a lane and remember life's highway is always wide and open.